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“Ron’s delivery is uplifting, inspirational, and encouraging. When there is every reason to give up and surrender to the pressures of this life Ron’s presentation on single parenting gives one hope to commit.” – Janice Valentine, Mommas House for unwed teenage Moms, Glen Cove, NY
“I really found your seminar energizing, fun and very practical! I’ve been to a number of workshops and seminars and you have a gift!” – Lenore Toscano, Suffolk County, NY
“After our engaging conversation, it was quite clear that you are gifted with keen insight and experiences that you in turn gift to others. I was truly amazed by your ability to help me see past my blind spots. I actually spoke with my son about the things we discussed and made a significant breakthrough in our relationship. To say that I’m blown away by the results is an understatement!” – Walt Laurel, Chief Success Officer, Take Action Now business success coaching, www.TANcoaching.com
“Ron’s expertise and knowledge of the emotional as well as the legal aspects of divorce were extensive. He clearly possesses a wealth of knowledge on the subject of single-parenting and an even greater desire to share his experiences openly.
The information and techniques that I acquired during Ron’s seminar have been invaluable to me throughout the rigorous process of my divorce. His advice and understanding have been a source of great strength for me. He’s helped me to discover a new direction in my life and has given me the courage to sustain it! It’s apparent that Ron’s dedication to helping others achieve their greatest potential is sincerely from his heart.” – Jamie Young, Hewlett, NY
“The passion you have for improving other people’s lives really shines through! I am leaving here tonight feeling very empowered and for that I am very grateful! The exercises took me out of my comfort zone but I will never forget what I learned! Thank you!” – Tracy Gallant, Port Jefferson, NY
“This seminar showed me new ways of thinking.” – Terri Kaye, Suffolk County, NY
“I really liked the seminar, it helped me a lot! It made me realize that I need to start focusing on the important, good things in my life and not the unimportant and bad things. Great job!” – Katherine Corr, Jericho, NY
“I enjoyed your high energy presentation immensely! You kept it lively and real!” – Marc Bossert, Suffolk County, NY
“Thanks for a great seminar!” – Lisa V., Suffolk County, NY
“I enjoyed this workshop and I found it very helpful! Ron kept it fun and interesting. I definitely learned more about myself!” – Lisa Sattaning, Massapequa, NY
“For sometime I’ve been looking for a workshop like this one and I am so glad I came! I got a lot out of it and I now know that I am not alone!” – Tamara Andrews, Medford, NY
“I enjoyed the seminar. I had lost my focus and needed your help to to find it agan!” – Christine Coccia, Holbrook, NY
“This seminar was really hopeful and made me look at things differently!” – Janetta Lawry, Mastic Beach, NY
“Enjoyed your high energy presentation immensely! You kept it lively and real!” – Marc Bossert, Suffolk,NY
“Seminar brought my focus back to center!” – Deanna Nantiste, Suffolk, NY
”Your workshop was energizing, fun and practical. I’ve been to a number of stress management workshops and yours is the best! You have a gift!” – Lenore Toscano
”I really enjoyed your presentation! It was upbeat and honest.” – Anita Markowitz-Moyal, Suffolk, NY
Single Parent Power, Inc. Offerings:
All of our exciting programs utilize ‘breakthrough’ techniques and high involvement, ‘accelerated learning’ technologies when being taught. As a result, the participants learn faster, remember more and achieve maximum results. These programs are highly interactive with many hands-on processes, including role playing, that are created in partner or group settings. We require continuous changing of partners so that participants get the opportunity to work with people they do not know, see that other Single Parents are in similar situations and have similar challenges and begin to connect with other like minded people. At the conclusion to each of our events, the participants will now have the knowledge and tools to immediately start making positive, life affirming changes in their lives.
1) Conquering Stress as a Single Parent – The Ultimate Stress Management course – Addresses and provides needed solutions to handling the most common areas that create stress in Single Parents – Finances, Children, Ex- Partners, Jobs, Lack of Time Management Skills, Feeling Alone and Isolated, Poor Communication Skills and Not Taking Control of One’s Life.
2) The Greater Dad! – Addresses and provides solutions to the most common challenges that create a separation between fathers and their children – Stress, Finances, Separation/Divorce, Ex- Partners, Jobs, Lack of Time Management Skills, Feeling Left Out/Excluded, Poor Communication Skills, Lack of Accountability, New Relationships, Embarrassment/Shame and Not Taking Control of One’s Life.
3) Dating As A Single Parent: The 7 Costly Mistakes Single Parents Make When Dating! – Addresses the needs of Single Parents who are trying to but are unable to balance every day life with the opportunity to date. In a very interactive way, we explore when and how to begin dating, trust issues, time scheduling, balancing life, self esteem, when and if I introduce the person I am dating to my kids, dealing with children’s abandonment issues when dating and being consistent with your kids are some of the powerful areas we will cover in this program.
We additionally have created a special version for Teen Single Parents.
4) OK – We Are Getting A Divorce – Helps participants, in a very interactive way, find direction and guidance in their lives when dealing with the challenges presented in these early stages of divorce or separation. This program will help build clarity and strength for the participant in each of their specific situations. The following are some areas that will be addressed:
. What to expect in the early stages of divorce separation.
. Initial reactions to expect – Issues of self doubt and uncertainty, second guessing, anger,
relief, revenge, hurt, fear, etc.
. Lack of direction
. Feelings that will be encountered – shock, confusion, anxiety, stress, anger, feeling
overwhelmed, depression, etc.
. Feeling isolated and alone
. The different phases to expect to go through and how to deal with them
. The “Blame Game”
. The children – how to address their needs. Building inner strength and self confidence
. Creating a road map to help guide participant
. Time management skills
. Communication skills
. Stress management skills
5) Divorced – Now What? – This highly interactive program addresses some of the big challenges that occur after the separation / divorce is well under way or over. We will discuss:
. How to let go of the marriage
. Different emotions you will feel – anxiety, uncertainty, stress, fear, overwhelmed, etc.
. Different Stages you will go through
. Finding your identity
. How to rebuild your self esteem and self worth
. Communication skills – with children, ex-Partner, etc.
. Taking control of your life – being accountable
. The ways your parenting will need to change
. How to help your children and what they will be feeling and going through – self blame,
holidays away from a parent, being used as pawns, feeling left out, abandoned, etc.
. How to forgive and move forward with life
. How to create a road map for your future.
6) The Ultimate Family Single Parent and Teen Connection Retreat (Summer, 2009) -Very interactive, hands on, fun and activity filled camp specifically designed to remove the teens and the parents from all the stimuli and distractions of every day life and place them in an environment where they can focus on each other and build on their relationship. We have reserved an amazing scenic location in the beautiful Pocono Mountains of Pennsylvania. The activities the campers participate in will re-ignite and build an amazing bond and connection between parent and teen. We will empower teen and parent and will build their relationship by working on communication skills, self esteem, self confidence, as well as the trust between teen and parent. These families will leave this camp with amazing memories of reconnecting, having fun and overcoming challenges. As a result, they will come away a winner – with themselves, their family and with each other!
(4 ½ Day All Inclusive Sleep Away Camp Tuition: Adult – $797 ; Teen – $697)
7) Self Esteem – How to Love Thyself – This highly interactive and powerful workshop addresses the common reasons and provides solutions to the causes of low self esteem:
. Self doubt
. “Why me” attitude (I am a victim)
. Allowing other people and circumstances to control your life
. Having and maintaining negative thoughts
. Hanging around negative people
. Listening and believing what other people say about you.
Through the processes we will be utilizing and the tools we will be teaching at this workshop,
the participants will walk away feeling better about who they are and have the tools to continue to feel that way.
Train the Trainer- Families are extremely important in helping guide and empower our Single Parents and their children into the next phases of their lives. Therefore, it is essential with such a large part of the parent community being Single Parents that we help facilitate a better understanding of Single Parent Families with our Teachers and Trainers. This in turn assists them to better understand the additional challenges that these families have to face and better prepares them with the tools to address these challenges when they do appear. We focus on teaching techniques that help make learning easier and more impactful. Additionally we address and make the trainers aware of the many challenges faced by Single Parent Families, including Communication, Stress, Finances, Time Management and Family Relationships.
9) Living A Healthier Life As A Single Parent Family – In addition to our staff, we bring in top medical and alternative health experts for a full day to help and work with our Single Parent families to live a healthier, lower stress life. After all, isn’t the goal for optimum health to have
surplus of energy, strength and power?)
10) Single Parent’s Life Direction – Finding what you are passionate about and exploring ways to allow you to incorporate that into a career. If you are re-entering the work force or are in a job you are not thrilled with, we will help you explore and discover your passions and show you how to tie that into a career you will enjoy and love. We will help you continue on your journey in bringing your life into alignment with where you, as a Single Parent, want it to be!
11) Holiday Joy For The Single Parent – November and December are extremely hard months for Single Parents. We will address the reasons behind this, discuss the challenges that arise as a result and provide the tools, community and the information needed to help immediately change these holidays to a more enjoyable and thankful time.
12) The Single Custodial Father Series – A series of progressive seminars to help the Single Custodial Father along the journey of parenting. The series begins with the Father first receiving custody of his children and continues with the Father on his journey building, growing with and supporting his family.
13) The Single Teen Mother Series – A series of progressive seminars that address the specific challenges faced by Teenage Mothers and their family.
14) The Ultimate Family Single Parent and Child Connection Retreat (Summer / Fall, 2009) -Very interactive, hands on, fun and activity filled camp specifically designed to remove the kids and the parents from all the stimuli and distractions of every day life and place them in an environment where they can focus on each other and build on their relationship. The activities the campers participate in will re-ignite and build an amazing bond and connection between parent and child. We will empower kids and parent and will build their relationship by working on communication skills, self esteem, self confidence, as well as the trust between child and parent. These families will leave this camp with amazing memories of reconnecting, having fun and overcoming challenges. As a result, they will come away a winner – with themselves, their family and with each other!
(3 Day All Inclusive Day Camp)
15) The Finance Camp for Kids / Teens (10 Years and older) – An innovative day camp format that teaches middle school and high school age kids how to make, manage and multiply their money by becoming responsible for their own financial future!
Using interactive Games, Activities and Field Trips, teens learn the basic time-tested principles
of creating financial freedom.
The Finance Camp is based in simple principles:
. You are the CEO of your own life
. Pay yourself first
. Save early – save often
. The three pillars of wealth (stocks, real estate and business) that produce passive income
. Put your money to work for you
. How much money you make is less important than how much money you keep
. The key to creating financial freedom is smart money habits
. Life is an adventure; let passion be your guide
16) The Finance Camp for Adults – Grew out of a demand from parents and other adults for a program tailored just for them. This program speaks to the glaring need most Single Parents have to understand the basic personal money management skills necessary to build financial peace of mind.
In this camp we teach using techniques and information similar to the kid’s camp (Parents
can have fun too!).
17) The Finance Camp for Families – Same basics as the other Finance Camps, but in a family environment. This camp demonstrates to Single Parent families how to, as a single unit, understand the basic personal money management skills necessary to build financial peace of mind. This camp allows Single Parent families to understand and work together toward a sound financial future!
Notes:
1) The Ultimate Single Parent and Teen Family Retreat is for teens 13 and above
2) The Ultimate Single Parent and Child Family Retreat is for kids 8 to 12
3) The tuitions for all events are All Inclusive.
4) The Finance Camp is approved with the California State Standards created by the Department of Education
There is an email going around that I like and wanted to share with you. I believe that it particularly applies to Single Parents because we live this. People come in and out of our life as we go through our journey. As we go through Divorce a lot of Single Parents experience the loss of friends and couples that they used to hang out with. As we had discussed previously, it is important to not just go through the changes that occur when we go through challenges, but to look back and learn from them so they where not in vain and we do not repeat the same actions. This same idea pertains to our ex partner and what had occurred to trigger the events that cause the separation from each other. The same applies for all people who enter our lives and make some type of impact upon us and allow us the opportunity to grow as a result. So please enjoy the following:
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a
lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that
person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet
a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide
you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a Godsend and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient
time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship
to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire
fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to
move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your
turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons,
Things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional
foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson,
Love the person and put what you have learned to use in all
other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
So say thank you for being a part of my life,
Whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.
Until next time, remember – you are the best parent you can be in this moment!
With Love, Peace and Power,
Ron Dilbert
Single Parent Power, Inc. – “Helping Families Grow”
www.SingleParentPower.com
www.SingleParentPower.com/Blog
rdilbert@SingleParentPower.com
516-355-1552
“In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity” – Albert Einstein
What do you focus on? As I listened to someone complaining on how miserable life is I started thinking, besides that the alternative to life is not such a great choice, that the times when I used to get into this space is when I focused on the things that one after another seemed to be going wrong. I read an article the other day that talked about relationships and the old “80/20″ rule. For those of you who do not know this rule what it says is that in life there is always this ratio of 80% one aspect and 20% another. At the job about 20% of the people do about 80% of the productive work. You will be glad to know that I do not want to talk about work tonight but about relationships, life and how this rule affects Single Parent Families.
I looked back into my past and spoke with other Single Parents about their past. What I found is that the majority of us after a while use our power of choice, for some weird reason, to focus more on the 20% in our lives that are not working. For example, in a relationship that has passed the honeymoon phase and you have been together a while – 80% of the things are “good” and 20% of the things are “bad” in your eyes. At the start of the relationship you where attracted to and focused on the 80% but as the relationship progresses you begin to focus on the 20%. So we begin to focus on the 20% which are “negatives” like he snores when he sleeps, she is always moving my things around, he double dips, she is always reminding me not to, and on and on. The problem is that what you focus on expands and becomes larger and larger. So if you focus on the 20% that is what you keep in the front of your mind and that is what you look for to validate the “negatives” in the relationship. That is why when you speak to couples who break up after counseling and ask what the focus was they usually say fixing what was wrong in the relationship – the 20% “bad” and not focusing on the 80% that was “good” and making that expand.
What about life? What do we as Single Parents do when we start stressing out or having problems? We begin to focus more and more on the problem! What does that do? It creates a larger and larger problem because what we focus on … expands. So what do you think would happen if we decided to focus on the good things in our lives? After all, it does depend on how we look at things! Carol Burnett said, “I have always grown from my problems and challenges, from the things that don’t work out, that’s when I’ve really learned.” When things don’t go the way we want, then we have a choice – we can play the victim and let life direct us like a puppet or we can choose to direct our own life by controlling how we feel, how we respond and the life lesson we get out of it. You notice i did not say “react” because reacting requires no thinking and therefore by nature is not choice. One positive we can look at are our blessings! We are healthy, we have great supportive friends, we have a roof over our head and food in our mouths, we have great children who love us, we have fantastic family who are there for us and on and on. I hope you are getting the picture. Take some time and write a list of what and who you are grateful for and look at it at least two times a day – when you get up and when you go to bed. In this way you remind yourself of the many blessings you do have in your life at the beginning of your day and at the close of your day.
You now know you have a choice. You can choose to look at the 20% of what is “wrong” in your life and miss out on the other 80% that is “good” OR you can choose to focus on the 80% of “good” things in your life and miss out on the 20% that you decide is “bad”. It is all up to you and how you decide to think and what you decide to focus on.
Until next time – remember that you are the best parent you can possibly be in this moment of time!
Please write your comments below and I look forward to reading them.
With Love, Peace and Power,
Ron Dilbert
Single Parent Power, Inc. – “Helping Families Grow”
www.SingleParentPower.com
www.SingleParentPower.com/Blog
rdilbert@SingleParentPower.com
516-355-1552
“In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity” – Albert Einstein
