Talking Further On Extractions

In our last blog, we spoke about the way we think as Single Parents and how that affects our stress and anxiety, as we discussed the tooth extraction I had.

Imagine what life would be like if whenever we had constant, consistent pain in our lives that we could just extract the source of it and thus remove it from our life and it would be gone. We would know that the discomfort would only be temporary before we removed it. Sounds like this could be like some separations and divorces.

What do I mean by this? That is a good question! I have seen and heard of so many divorces becoming bitter with anger and resentment freely flowing back and forth. Where couples who once loved each other are ready to get in a whatever it takes to get the other mentality. Where emotions completely take over and there no longer is any rationale. When we get in this state we forget common sense and get so caught up in this process that we forget everything else - including what is best for our kids and what is best for us! The courts do not help either as they pit one party against another - very confrontational from the get go.

So I know what you are asking - when does the extraction part come into play? I was just thinking that myself! Well, this is the hard part (at least in the beginning). This is where the word forgiveness comes into play. How do we move forward in our lives? By looking back into the past? By being angry at your ex? By trying to sabotage their life? So let me ask you this question - if you are focusing on your ex, who is focusing on your kids and your future. Like a tooth extraction when you release the pain with the tooth, you need to release the divorce and that whole story that goes with it just like the tooth. You need to forgive and start placing the focus where it belongs - on you and your kids making a great life for yourselves.

There are many ways and techniques to do this. I believe one way is that you use your past challenges as ways to learn and that you cannot carry these challenges with you because then they only hold you back. You learn the lesson or lessons you needed to learn and then you release that challenge/issue/mistake or whatever you wish to call it. In this way you no longer have a ball and a chain on your ankle holding you back but instead open road ahead to go full speed forward. This is the exciting part - where you determine the roads you turn onto through the decisions you make. You now get to move forward toward your goals and help your kids do the same.

So this is all for now with the tooth extraction and the lesson of forgiving to move forward. This is really all about you taking control of your life and where you want it to go. So here is to you - the Single Parent that always does the best you can at each moment in time, because you really do. Until next time have quality time as family and please comment and let us know what you are thinking!

With Love, Peace and Power,

Ron Dilbert
Single Parent Power, Inc. - “Helping Families Grow”
www.SingleParentPower.com
rdilbert@SingleParentPower.com
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“In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity” - Albert Einstein