Just had one of “those” days and ended with an aha moment! So I would like to share. I have been having headaches and trying to figure out why. Finally I ended up at the dentist and found out that my previous root canal had “gone bad” - whatever that means, and on top of that I had an infection under that tooth. So guess what I had to do - get it extracted (for those of you who have been lucky enough to never have gone through it - that means to get it pulled).
Now I had never had adult teeth pulled and I had 2 full days to think about it before the actual event. My mind started racing and thinking about all the worst case scenarios and all the pain I was going to be in, which of course got me even more stressed and anxious! . Then I got to thinking about how this ties into being a Single Parent! As a Single Parent (or any parent for that matter) we have a tendency to think worst case scenario and drive ourselves crazy. When our kids are not home on time instead of thinking to ourselves that maybe they got tied up, we think about all the horrible things that could of happened - car accident, drunk, left in the middle of no where. And yes, this is our mind driving us bonkers. When they walk in the door and we find out that they had to jump start the car and that was why they where late - then after that feeling of relief we want to ground them for life. Mark Twain once said, “I’m an old man and I have had many troubles, most of which never happened!”
The bottom line - the anxiety before was causing me more pain then the actual event. Yes it was uncomfortable and not something I would want to do often, if ever again - but no where near as bad as I had been thinking. Our minds are powerful tools and like tools if used the wrong way can be dangerous. When we let our mind wander and cause excess stress or dissuade us from doing something we want to do - our mind is controlling us and not the other way around. So lets watch what we say to ourselves and be positive and keep ourselves calm. As Single Parents our kids are watching and if we show them how we handle situations and stay calm when our mind is going though all the possible horrors then we will also be teaching them how to be positive with their self talk.
I look forward to your comments and experiences.
Until next time - You are the best parent you can be right now!
With Love, Peace and Power,
Ron Dilbert
Single Parent Power, Inc. - “Helping Families Grow”
www.SingleParentPower.com
rdilbert@SingleParentPower.com
516-355-1552
“In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity” - Albert Einstein
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As a proud single parent, it is so refreshing to have a place where we can express our opinions and get help from someone who has been there and done that. Keep up the great work Ron, God has blessed you with an experience that only you can deliver!
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